How To Deal With Children’s Aggressive Behaviour In Divorce
Today’s theme is children developing anger issues throughout a divorce. Learn why they can’t control it and how you can fix it. Look out! This post includes an exclusive Cheatsheet/Worksheet.
Niels Klement, Child of Divorce
WHY YOUR CHILD DEVELOPED ANGER ISSUES
But when you have a younger child, think about this: Sometimes, co-parents try to be nasty about the other co-parent in front of their child because they actually think it would help them be better off as a parent when the other co-parent seems “bad” to the children. Out of experience, I can say its a BIG MISTAKE for the parent whos talking bad. Children only get torn between both parents.
But if this is sadly the case and your co-parent does not know that this is completely ineffective and how to go right about this, be sure to talk to your child about things he got told and briefly explain your point of view and then let your child decide on what it’s going to believe. That might not be easy for you but its definitely a pressure relive for your child. In the other case, when you did something wrong or something your child could not agree with, show him that you deeply regret it and you never wanted to hurt him.
Last but not least, there is another reason why children are aggressive after divorce. It’s that they feel left and lonely. But I can say, just from the fact that you are reading this, it is not the case.
Reading this blog simply approves that you are caring deeply about your children and that you are on the right path, not just to rais an emotionally intelligent and healthy child but also to be a better parent too. Keep going.
DETERMINE YOUR CHILDS ANGER TRIGGERS
1) What similarities do the situations share, when your child behaves aggressively?
2) Who is your kid trying to offend? (You, Everyone, Your new Partner?)
3) Is there also another feeling like sadness involved?
HOW TO IMMEDIATELY REACT ON AN AGGRESSIVE CHILDS BEHAVIOR
IS PUNISHMENT HELPFUL?
THE DOWNLOADABLE WORKSHEET
Thank you for reading this!
In conclusion, it is all about figuring out what causes the anger and then working effectively against that.
Every child has a similar way of thinking though, but it is always individually caused by the respective family situation. To help you figure out the exact reason for your children’s anger problems, I created this worksheet for you, to determine the reasons by answering a few questions. You can download it here.
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