As I said before, young children can not really comprehend what is going on in a difficult situation like divorce, especially not when its just starting out. At the moment you tell them you are going to separate, they realize that there’s going to be a big change in their life because mommy and daddy stopped loving each other.
Since children do not really know what it takes to break a relationship and what reason exactly caused the situation, they start blaming themselves.
Additional to that, many parents aren’t talking to their kids enough about divorce. Okay, I get it, you don’t want to pressure your child more than it needs to be, but in this case, it is the wrong decision.
When you do not give your child sufficient information about your current status in divorce, they are gonna think up stuff that is not true and they’ll start blaming themselves.
But of course, be careful with the information you give to your child. Stuff like finances and ownership disputes do not belong in a child’s ear and are totally irrelevant.
On the whole, it is important that you talk to your kids about divorce right at the start. In my opinion, the article of Lisa Herrick
, who is a therapist is really helpful in this situation. You can check it out here!